It's come to my attention that many people in the autism community have issues when it comes to how they feel when they make social mistakes. These can be anything from replaying the conversation and event in your head, to depressed mood or thoughts based on feeling like you never say the "right" thing, or act normal. Many times it feels like you just can't and wont ever fit in, and no one truly wants to be your friend, or feels attached to you. This can end relationships both quickly and over time. It can result in apathy and lack of interest in forming relationships or communicating in general. I struggle every single time I notice I do something "wrong", and so do some of the people on my facebook page.
Right now I think I need to make this post to say I understand that struggle, and I know how bad it can get. But I'm facing it myself, I don't have the answers yet. But this is me promising that as I learn what works for me and share it, and even suggestions that I am skeptical of or that don't work for me I will mention so that maybe someone finds something that does work for them.
All I can say at this point is if it's not inherently negative, own it. Make it into a statement against the status quo and don't think of it as a mistake. If it is a mistake, then learn from it, but try not to remember the time you made the mistake as it can seep into your mind and make your future positive experiences stressful and anxiety inducing.
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